Valentines day, the traditional day on which lovers express their love for each other, is fast approaching. All over the world men are rushing out and making the same old mistakes when purchasing lingerie for their partners, wives, girlfriends and mistresses. If you are a man that is worried that you may make the usual mistakes, read on. If you are a woman and know that you partner will probably be buying you some sexy undies to accompany the flowers and chocolates, then surreptitiously leave this article open on his computer so that he reads it!

Tips for successfully buying sexy lingerie

1. Sexy maybe great for you, but is it comfortable? The less comfy it is the less likely she will wear it again. Try to balance sex appeal with comfort.
2. Flowers may have a big impact on the day, yet nightwear is something that you can both enjoy.
3. Other gifts on the market only have a lasting value of two weeks where as a simple yet effective outfit will last much longer.
4. Ask what size she really is. If you are not sure look at some of her current underwear.
5. Buy quality! Silk is great for keeping you cool in the summer and brilliant being cosy for those winter nights.
6. Bright colours may look great but might not be practical to wear with day to day work wear.
7. Large and confusing patterns are less flattering so stick to simple yet sexy.
8. Ensure that your garment is machine washable.
9. Size matters! Buying underwear too big could mean that you are left in the cold on your sizzling night in.
10. Buy something special and personal to her and she will feel special too.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

As everyone knows, lingerie is a popular last minute Christmas gift for men to buy their partners. Everyone woman loves nice lingerie, and every man loves to see his partner looking sexy and beautiful in her underwear. It is a win-win option.

However, every year men manage to chose the wrong item. They chose something that looks sexy and luxurious, and then their partner never wears it again. So, how do you chose the right lingerie for your partner? If you make the right choice, you can get into her good books, which can pay dividends over the Christmas season. But get it wrong, and you pay the price!

The most obvious way to chose the right underwear is to take a good look at your partners current collection (remembering to also not sizes). Look for the newest items, or the ones that are worn the most often, as new items in these styles will please. Remember, you are not buying lingerie for you, you are buying for your partner!

Once you have an idea of what she likes now, see what is on the market that is similar, but with something special added. Something simple but with a lacy finish is ideal – something which is not in the usual budget for underwear.

One tip is that meshes and stretchy materials are generally far more forgiving – you can sometimes get away with being a size out. Bra sizes tend to be true or at least close.

There are some items that you really should avoid buying as a gift:

Do not buy any control or slimming pieces, as this sends the wrong message! These may be her preferred items, but you are not supposed to know that they are designed to make her tummy look smaller!

With bras do not buy anything designed to make the breasts appear larger, again, this sends the wrong message to your partner.

Avoid kinky items completely, unless you are a really kinky couple. Generally these items are best left to your partner to chose, or bought together.

Remember to keep that receipt just in case. Take a look at La Senza and Figleaves, as they have some great deals on sexy and stylish lingerie this season.

Every man has done it – or will do it – and you know who you are! You walk into the lingerie department and pick out something you saw on a size two hottie in a movie and take it home for your lady and then wonder why she never wears it.

Buying sexy lingerie for your lover can be really romantic or really tragic. Intimate underwear is a gift for the two of you. If you get it right it shows that you really care, really pay attention to her and have put effort into thinking about her style.

It can also be very hazardous to your relationship if you bring home something that is more bordello than bedroom.

Get it right, guys, and there are some MAJOR brownie points to be earned.

Get it wrong, well…that is where I come in…don’t ever get it wrong again!

Before you even leave the house or start surfing the net to buy anything make sure you remember the cardinal rule of lingerie buying IT IS NOT FOR YOU!! OK – maybe in a roundabout way it is – but you are not wearing it. Remember who is wearing it. If you buy a strappy leather cupless crotchless number for the lady who has never worn anything except plain jane the chances are slim she is going to feel comfortable in it. Chances are she will tell you to wear it!

Think of her style – you can never go wrong with lace and the nice stretchy mesh. If it is your first time buying stick with something basic but different – you can always get more daring next time if she responds to your choice.

For the most part women want lingerie that says “I love you” NOT “Let’s do it”

The second thing you want to do is do some research – DO NOT try to guess her size – unless you find the couch and dog a more comfortable night than your bed and a nice lady in lingerie. Look into the things she already has and get the size of something similar to what you plan to buy. Women’s sizes vary by manufacturer. Meshes and stretchy materials tend to be more forgiving and range sizes (something marked Small/Medium) are a better bet than something marked Size 4. Bra sizes tend to be true or at least close.

Pay attention to things she comments on when watching movies and such – does she go gaga over the things the girls in Sex and the City wear or does she just HAVE to have that dress Mrs. Cleaver was wearing? Note the colors and styles of her regular lingerie – there is usually a difference between a black lingerie lover and a red lingerie lover. Remember, you want to buy something she will wear for you and something that will cause her to think about you when she wears it – so you want it to be her style.

THINGS TO AVOID AT ALL COSTS!

Avoid anything marked “Control” or “Slimming” These are to suck in bellies and hide excess weight – not the sexiest message in the world, eh?

Gel filled, water filled and cleavage enhancing bras – Okay if it is her style, but otherwise No No No – she may feel like you wish she were larger on top.

Kinky stuff in general doesn’t generally work as an “I love you” kind of gift unless it is something you two have talked about and decided you wanted to try out. It is not the kind of thing you want to just buy on your own but more of a joint decision.

A word or two about presentation: Handing her the bag from the store with the receipt attached takes some of the romance out of the gift. Most stores will have a gift-wrapping service for a couple of bucks. After all of the thought you put into the lingerie, it is well worth it – otherwise, you can go to any card and gift shop and get a nice gift bag and tissue paper and a sexy card and make your own pretty package.

Shopping online: One of the great things about shopping for lingerie online is that there is a ton of information available that you simply cannot find in a lingerie store. When browsing an online lingerie retailer take a look at their gift ideas, top sellers list et cetera for ideas of what are popular choices.

KEEP THE RECEIPT Even after all of your hard work and dedication she just may prefer something else – always keep the receipt in a safe place and you can go back together to pick out a replacement. Use it as a learning experience to find out what she liked or did not like and next time you can make an even better choice.

Copyright 2005 www.katieroseintimates.com

About the Author:

Katie Rose is the owner of Katie Rose Intimates Sexy Costumes and Lingerie – http://www.katieroseintimates.com. A fine lingerie shop featuring fantasy clothing, leather and lace and intimate apparel in sexy, erotic, romantic and unique styles – with special attention for the plus size woman. ATTENTION WEBMASTERS and EZINE PUBLISHERS – Permission is granted to publish this article on your site or in your Ezine but ONLY if my bio paragraph is included and all links are hyperlinked. I would also appreciate a note letting me know that you are using it, although it is not mandatory, I just like to see where my work is being used.

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